Many of us have difficulty forgiving others. On one hand, we know it's the right thing to do. On the other hand, we resist. We have been hurt and we're angry and we believe that forgiveness would send the message that we are weak or that we are letting our victimizer off the hook. Neither is true. Point being: When we have difficulty forgiving others, there are perspectives we can take and things we can tell ourselves that will make it easier to forgive.